Short description: Type of anger outburst engaged in typically by young children
"Christina Rossetti in a Tantrum" by her brother, Dante Gabriel Rossetti
A tantrum, temper tantrum, lash out, meltdown, fit or hissy fit is an emotional outburst,[1][2][3] usually associated with those in emotional distress, that is typically characterized by stubbornness, crying, screaming, violence,[4] defiance,[5]angry ranting, a resistance to attempts at pacification, and, in some cases, hitting and other physically violent behavior. Physical control may be lost; the person may be unable to remain still; and even if the "goal" of the person is met, they may not be calmed. Throwing a temper tantrum can lead to a child getting detention or being suspended from school for older school age children, and can result in a timeout or grounding, complete with room or corner time, at home.[6][7][8][9][10][11] A tantrum may be expressed in a tirade: a protracted, angry speech.[6][7][12]
Tantrums are one of the most common forms of problematic behavior in young children but tend to decrease in frequency and intensity as the child gets older.[13] For a toddler, tantrums can be considered as normal, and even as gauges of developing strength of character.[14][15][16]
Child having a tantrum
While tantrums are sometimes seen as a predictor of future anti-social behaviour,[17] in another sense they are simply an age-appropriate sign of excessive frustration,[18] and will diminish over time given a calm and consistent handling.[19][20][21] Parental containment where a child cannot contain themself—rather than what the child is ostensibly demanding—may be what is really required.[22]
Selma Fraiberg warned against "too much pressure or forceful methods of control from the outside" in child-rearing: "if we turn every instance of pants changing, treasure hunting, napping, puddle wading and garbage distribution into a governmental crisis we can easily bring on fierce defiance, tantrums, and all the fireworks of revolt in the nursery".[23]
Intellectual and developmental disorders
Some people who have developmental disorders such as Autism, ADHD, and intellectual disability[24] or even a developmental disability, could be more vulnerable to tantrums than others, although anyone experiencing brain damage (temporary or permanent) can suffer from tantrums.[25] Anyone may be prone to tantrums once in a while, regardless of gender or age.[26][27] However, a meltdown due to sensory overload (which even neurotypical children can experience) is not the same as a temper tantrum.[28]
Freud considered that the Wolf Man's development of temper tantrums was connected with his seduction by his sister: he became "discontented, irritable and violent, took offence on every possible occasion, and then flew into a rage and screamed like a savage".[29] Freud linked the tantrums to an unconscious need for punishment driven by feelings of guilt[30]—something which he thought could be generalised to many other cases of childhood tantrums.[31][32]
Heinz Kohut contended that tantrums were rages of anger,[33] caused by the thwarting of the infant's grandiose-exhibitionist core. The blow to the inflated self-image, when a child's wishes are (however justifiably) refused, creates fury because it strikes at the feeling of omnipotence.[34]
Jealousy over the birth of a sibling, and resulting aggression, may also provoke negativistic tantrums, as the effort at controlling the feelings overloads the child's system of self-regulation.[35][36]
In later life
Writer William Makepeace Thackeray claimed that in later life "you may tell a tantrum as far as you can see one, by the distressed and dissatisfied expression of its countenance—'Tantrumical', if we may term it so".[37]
Heinz Kohut contended that "the baby’s core is likely to contain a self-centred, grandiose-exhibitionist part", and that "tantrums at being frustrated thus represent narcissistic rages"[33] at the blow to the inflated self-image. With "a child confronted with some refusal ... regardless of its justifications, the refusal automatically provokes fury, since it offends his sense of omnipotence".[34]
The willingness of the celebrity to throw tantrums whenever thwarted to the least degree[38] is a kind of acquired situational narcissism[39] or tantrumical behavior.
If tantrums are shown by older people, they might often be signs of immaturity or a mental or developmental disability; and often autistic or ADHD meltdowns are incorrectly labelled tantrums. It can also occur in neurotypical people under extreme stress.[40]
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↑Daniels, Elizabeth; Mandleco, Barbara; Luthy, Karlen E. (2012). "Assessment, management, and prevention of childhood temper tantrums". Journal of the American Academy of Nurse Practitioners24 (10): 569–573. doi:10.1111/j.1745-7599.2012.00755.x. PMID23006014.
↑Banham Bridges, Katharine M. (1932). "Emotional Development in Early Infancy". Child Development3 (4): 324–341. doi:10.1111/j.1467-8624.1932.tb05842.x.
↑Robin Skynner; John Cleese (1993). Families and how to survive them. p. 177.
↑Isaacs, S. (1940). "Temper tantrums in early childhood in their relation to internal objects.". The International Journal of Psychoanalysis21: 280–293.
↑Solter, A. (1992). "Understanding Tears and Tantrums". Young Children47 (4): 64–68.
↑Potegal, Michael; Davidson, Richard J. (June 2003). "Temper Tantrums in Young Children". Journal of Developmental & Behavioral Pediatrics24 (3): 140–147. doi:10.1097/00004703-200306000-00002. PMID12806225.
↑Roy Benaroch (2008). Solving Health and Behavioural Problems from Birth Through Preschool. p. 157.
↑Kopp, C.B. (1989). "Regulation of distress and negative emotions: A developmental view.". Developmental Psychology25 (3): 343–354. doi:10.1037/0012-1649.25.3.343.
↑Levine, Linda (1995). "Young Children's Understanding of the Causes of Anger and Sadness". Child Development66 (3): 967–709. doi:10.2307/1131944. PMID7789196.
↑Patrick Casement (1990). Further Learning from the Patient. pp. 113–4.
↑Selma H. Fraiberg (1987). The Magic Years. p. 65.
↑Luiselli, J.; Murbach, L. (2002). "Providing Instruction from Novel Staff as an Antecedent Intervention for Child Tantrum Behavior in a Public School Classroom". Education and Treatment of Children25 (3): 356–365.
↑Lancioni, G. E.; Smeets, P. M.; Ceccarani, P. S.; Capodaglio, L.; Campanari, G. (1984). "Effects of gross motor activities on the severe self-injurious tantrums of multihandicapped individuals.". Applied Research in Mental Retardation5 (4): 471–482. doi:10.1016/S0270-3092(84)80039-9. PMID6240965.
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↑Selma H. Fraiberg (1987). The Magic Years. p. 152.
↑Dennis, Tracy A. (2006). "Emotional self-regulation in preschoolers: The interplay approach reactivity, and control capacities". Developmental Psychology42 (1): 84–97. doi:10.1037/0012-1649.42.1.84. PMID16420120.