Divorce is the legal dissolution of a marriage.
As marriage sometimes has both legal and religious components, a divorce only ends the legal component. Depending on the parties' religious views (if any), some religions require the married partners to have a religious divorce to maintain good standing within the religion. For instance, practicing Jews must get both a legal divorce, to satisfy secular authorities, and a get (גט), or religious divorce, to satisfy religious practice, while Catholics must obtain an annulment (not the same as a legal annulment) in order to remarry. Protestants usually don't offer or provide religious divorces, but may not allow divorced persons to hold certain offices unless the divorce is for certain reasons (generally, in cases of abandonment, abuse, or adultery by the other spouse), and may not allow their facility to be used for a marriage where one or both parties divorced for other reasons.
Liberals have consistently gotten divorced at higher rates than social conservatives, which some say strains the sanctity of marriage.
See also: Divorce, single-parent households and its negative effects on children
The nonprofit Annie E. Casie Foundation notes:
“ | Single-parent families — and especially mother-only households — are more likely to live in poverty compared to married-parent households. Given this, kids of single parents are more likely to experience the consequences of growing up poor. Children in poverty are more likely to have physical, mental and behavioral health problems, disrupted brain development, shorter educational trajectories, contact with the child welfare and justice systems, employment challenges in adulthood and more.
Many families are low-income but sit above the federally-defined poverty line. Children from these families often face similar challenges and live in communities with limited access to quality health care, comprehensive support services and enriching activities... Kids from single-parent families are more likely to face emotional and behavioral health challenges — like aggression or engaging in high-risk behaviors — when compared to peers raised by married parents. Research has linked these health challenges with factors often associated with single-parent families, such as parental stress, lost social networks, witnessing conflict, moving homes and socioeconomic hurdles. Children of single mothers may face additional challenges. For instance: Depression, which can negatively impact parenting, is common among recently divorced mothers. Such hardships would be difficult for any child. But kids can recover and thrive — particularly when raised with the benefits of nurturing relationships, stability, and mental health support.[1] |
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The Heritage Foundation's article The Real Root Causes of Violent Crime: The Breakdown of Marriage, Family, and Community points out that the divorce is a causal factor for violent crime.
Alarmed at high rates of divorce within the Christian community, the Family Research Council tried to reverse that trend. They found that 85 percent of Christian couples either had no premarital counseling or only met once with their pastor. Considering this to be unacceptable, they put together programs that require a minimum of 4 months premarital preparation including the taking of a premarital inventory and meeting with mentor couples. This caused divorce rates to drop by 30% to 50% for those couples who adhered to the program.[2]
In 2021, Sandra Aponte, MA, RMHCI wrote the article The 4 Communication Styles That Lead To Divorce With 90% Accuracy which indicated:
“ | The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse are considered metaphorical figures in the New Testament’s final book of Revelation. Written down by John of Patmos after receiving a vision from God, they detail pestilence, war, famine, and death — kicking off a divine countdown for the end of the world and the Last Judgement.
Inspired by the ominous signs of this biblical vision, Dr. John Gottman describes his divorce-predicting research by the same name. More specifically, the communication styles that predicted the end of a relationship with 90% accuracy. His incredible research was completed with the assistance of 3,000 couples — who he followed and studied for over 20 years. As such, he was able to predict which couples would stay together, and which ones would end up divorcing within 6 years of the wedding. The four communication styles were:
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See also: Divorce and alcoholism
According to the article The Link Between Alcoholism and Divorce:
“ | Regarding the correlation between alcoholism and divorce, the real issue seems to arise when only one spouse is the heavy drinker in the marriage. Studies have shown that when one spouse has a drinking problem, the couple is much more likely to divorce.
For example, according to a study published in May 2014 in the Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs, researchers from the University of Michigan found that nearly half of the more than 17,000 study participants with a history of alcoholism got a divorce at some point in their lives, while only 30% of the participants who were not affected by serious alcohol problems got a divorce. The consequences of periodic or ongoing excessive drinking can lead to the deterioration of the communication channels, as well as the intimate relationship between the couple. Specific manifestations of such deterioration may include arguments, serious financial problems, acts of infidelity and acts of violence.[4] |
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Many believe that the Bible indicates that divorce is a sin in the eyes of God, and can lead to drastic consequences for those involved. Indeed, God says "I hate divorce." (Malachi 2:16 NIV version)
For most of 2,000 years Christians have viewed divorce primarily through two scriptural citations, Matthew 5:32 and 1 Corinthians 7:15. God's views on divorce are seen as most clearly articulated in the former, which is reiterated in 19:9:
"32: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery" (Matthew 5: 32) and, "9: And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery" (Matthew 19: 9)
The corresponding passages in Mark and Luke lack the reference to fornication:
Mark 10:11-12 (KJV): And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
Luke 16:18 (KJV): Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from [her] husband committeth adultery.
"1 Corinthians 7:15 states But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
Historically most conservative Protestant Christians have allowed divorce only in the case of adultery,[5] and some also for desertion,[6][7] The original text of the Westminster Confession, as approved by the General Assembly of the Church of Scotland in 1647, emphatically stated: "Nothing but adultery or such willful desertion as can no way be remedied by the Church or civil magistrate is cause sufficient of dissolving the bond of marriage." The offended party in such circumstances is free to remarry, as if the offending party were dead. In 1927, Dr. Clarence Edward Macartney recommended that the Presbyterian General Assembly declare that, "...adultery alone clearly recognized in the New Testament as cause for divorce. Therefore the Church cannot sanction divorce on any other ground nor the remarriage of divorced persons other than the innocent parties in divorces granted for adultery; and it shall be unlawful for a minister to marry any divorced person except one so divorced."[8]
There is disagreement as to how the absence of the fornication clause in the Mark and Luke affect the meaning of the fuller Matthean account, and some believe that any divorce equates to adultery, and incurs the consequences of such. (Gal. 5:19,21) Further consequences of adultery are stated in Deuteronomy 23:2, where it is stated:
"2:A bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the LORD; even to his tenth generation shall he not enter into the congregation of the LORD." (Deuteronomy 23:2)
However, the verse is open to some degree of interpretation,[9] and as this is an Old Testament decree (unlike the previous reference in Matthew), the generational effects are usually not seen by Christians as applying under the New Covenant[10] where the emphasis of salvation shifts from countries and family lines to individuals, and is open to all who will believe. (Gal. 3:28; Eph. 2; Rev. 5:9)
In the extensive examination of the issue by Wesleyan holiness preacher L. S. Boardman, fornication is shown as not restricted to premarital sex, and he contends that "the words from Mark must be blended with Matthew's account to make the dialogue complete."[11]
Most Protestant churches permit divorce, but encourage marriage counseling services or pastoral discussion first to save a marriage, saving divorce as a last resort. Sometimes the local pastor has exclusive authority over the marital business of his church, with only minimal policymaking from above. Most conservative Protestant denominations restrict divorce to specified conditions (generally cases of abandonment, abuse, or adultery), and allow remarriage in the case of the innocent victim, sometimes also permitting it if a person was divorced before becoming a Christian. Liberal denominations tend to allow or advocate lesser restraints; their position statements on such often lack substance.
In the rather detailed statement by the General Council of the Assemblies of God it is stated,
As regard remarriage, it holds that,
Because of the basic Baptist belief that each congregation is autonomous, any denominational statement, confession, or other such position is not binding on individual congregations, and some have adopted positions which go into detail (or not at all) and may even differ from their denomination's official position. Independent Baptist churches may have their own statement on the issue.
To the extent that the topic is covered within Baptist denominational statements, the general consensus among conservative Baptists is that marriage is considered to be a covenant (as opposed to merely a contract), and as God will not break His covenant with believers to save them, marriage is intended to mirror that covenant. Thus marriage is considered to be for life (of course, only between one man and one woman). In the event of a spouse's death the other spouse is free to remarry if s/he wishes.
But recognizing the realities of our sinful world, the groups generally permit divorce and remarriage on grounds of abandonment by a non-believing spouse (though in practice, the abandoning spouse is likely considered to not be a true believer no matter what s/he may otherwise say, and thus any abandonment is considered allowable) or adultery (but if the other party then commits adultery themselves, then divorce would not be permitted), and generally accepted in cases of abuse (especially if physical or sexual abuse of children is involved). Some (using 2 Corinthians 5:17 as a supporting text) allow a divorced person to remarry if the person was divorced before becoming a Christian.
On the other hand, liberal Baptists generally have no opposition to divorce and remarriage for any reason.
The doctrinal statement of the ABA states: "[w]e believe the Biblical definition of marriage is the union between a man and a woman" followed by various Biblical references.[13] Nothing about divorce and remarriage is mentioned.
The doctrinal statement of the BMAA does not discuss the topic of marriage at all.[14]
The Treatise of the Faith and Practices of the National Association of Free Will Baptists (the largest of the Free Will Baptist denominations) states that "[b]oth Scripture and nature as designed by God affirm the life-long, covenantal union of one man, being male as created by God, and one woman, being female as created by God, in a one-flesh relationship. This one-flesh relationship is emblematic of the union of Christ and His church. It is the sole and beautiful context of the divine plan for the biblical marriage of man and woman as imagebearers of God, as well as the foundation for the family as the basic, divinely ordained unit of human society. Violations of this one-flesh union, whether heterosexual or homosexual, premarital or extramarital, contravene the divine plan for the family and for the conception and rearing of children, bringing spiritual despair, guilt, and death to individuals and cultures."[15]
The Baptist Faith and Message (the 2000 edition) states that "[m]arriage is the uniting of one man and one woman in covenant commitment for a lifetime."[16] However, it does not discuss any grounds on which a divorce and/or remarriage of a divorced person is permissible.
The SBC also generally holds that a divorced person, or one who marries a divorced person, is ineligible to be a pastor or deacon (or elder, in those cases where an SBC congregation has them), even if the divorce was on permissible grounds or it took place before the divorced person became a Christian, but this is also not specified in the BF&M.
As such, as SBC churches are autonomous and independent of the denomination, each church can set its own policies (even independent of the BF&M) regarding these issues. Generally, though, the more conservative congregations hold to a strict view on the topic, usually limiting divorce to specified cases (usually abandonment, abuse, or adultery), remarriage only to those cases (and sometimes allowing it if the divorce took place before salvation) and not permitting divorced persons to serve as pastors, elders or deacons in any event, while moderate ones may be more lenient on the matter.
The most recent resolution on the topic, passed at the 2010 Annual Meeting, expressed concern about the alarming divorce rate within SBC congregations, going so far as to state that "[e]ven the most expansive view of the biblical exceptions allowing for divorce and remarriage would rule out many, if not most, of the divorces in our churches" and that the expansion of the rate "has not come through a shift in theological conviction about scriptural teaching on divorce but rather through cultural accommodation".[17]
The CMA perspective based on an Instructional Statement of The Christian and Missionary Alliance states (in part),
As Churches of Christ are independent of each other and are not organized in a formal denomination, each church has its own views on the matter.
In what is likely a very minority position on the matter, some Churches of Christ hold to what is likely the hardest position on divorce and remarriage, believing adultery to be the only Biblical ground, and further advocate that if a person is divorced and remarried (outside of grounds of adultery) before becoming a Christian, the person is still required to divorce his/her current spouse and either remarry their former spouse or remain unmarried, or else they continue to commit adultery.
In a non-binding, declaration, the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, without providing clear criteria states,
In Common Convictions, adopted by the Church Council of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America on November 9, 1996, the section on "The ending of a marriage" ambiguously states,
The Evangelical Presbyterian Church Position Paper on Divorce & Remarriage (adopted at the 15th General Assembly, June 1995) states that,
The Lutheran Church, Missouri Synod states that
In the 1987 study, Divorce and Remarriage: An Exegetical Study", it is stated,
Mennonite founder Menno Simons (ca. 1496-1561) clarified the Anabaptist position on divorce, based directly on the words of Christ and of the Apostle Paul, with adultery being the only acceptable ground for divorce.
The Wismar Resolutions of 1554, (as quoted in Mennonitisches Lexikon I, 530) stated:
However, the statement of position and policy adopted on June 24, 1983, by the Southeastern Mennonite Conference, states
The OCA takes a liberal position on divorce, as stated in the Q+A section of its official web site:
In 1992 the Presbyterian church stated in Minutes of the General Assembly (p. 62) that divorce was allowed under Biblical grounds.
Reformed Church in America stated [1] that
In ancient time Roman Catholics could possibly obtain divorces for either of the two traditional reasons,[26] Later Canon law does not admit divorce. The Catholic Church has a process of annulment based on the non-fulfilment of any of the religious marriage requirements, such as individual freedom or a previous unmarried state. In addition, various other conditions are recognized as possible grounds for annulment. Technically, an annulment is not a divorce but a declaration that a valid marriage never took place. Current available statistics show 53,885 annulments were granted to Catholics in the United States[27] and 638,705 from 1984 to 705[meaning unclear], the large majority being for "defective consent", meaning deceit by one of the parties.[28] Other common grounds for annulment include "lack of due discretion" in choosing a spouse, "psychic incapacity" to fulfill marital obligations, "defect of form", referring to a marriage that was not performed in the Catholic Church, and "prior bond", meaning one of the partners was married to someone else at the time of the wedding.[29]
In the 2004 Presidential election season many devout Catholics were scandalized by Senator John Kerry, now married to his second wife, taking Holy Communion without having obtained an annulment. Some charge Catholicism with engaging in deception by using annulments to circumvent its prohibition on divorce,[30] while it is pointed out that the Bible considered people married even when joined under conditions which might quality as grounds for annulments.[31]
The current catechism states, in part,
The United Methodist Church position is that "When marriage partners are estranged beyond reconciliation, the church recognizes divorce as regrettable, but also recognizes the right of divorced persons to remarry."[33]
The United Church of Christ (a very liberal denomination) holds that "Divorced and remarried persons are welcome to participate fully in the life of the church."[34]
The Wesleyan Church states,
Divorce laws vary from state to state. Divorce is also legally distinct from annulment, which is only allowed in limited cases and usually only within the earliest periods of a marriage. A divorce recognizes the legal end of a marriage; an annulment acts as if there was never a marriage from the outset.
In 1969, California became the first U.S. state to legalize no-fault divorce. Under the common unilateral divorce laws (also known as no-fault divorce), either party can demand and get a divorce at any time and for any reason with marital assets being split evenly (or "equitably", as in Texas; for example a woman who worked at home may get a larger share of the estate due to her being outside the workforce or being granted custody of any children).
The "no-fault" provisions only apply in that allegations of fault cannot prohibit the divorce from being granted, but courts do consider allegations of fault when children are involved in regards to awarding of custody, and in some cases in the awarding of marital assets.
See also: Atheism and divorce and Atheism, divorce, love and poor interpersonal skills
The atheist divorce rate is a steep 37%.[36] Additionally, 51% of atheists are likely to cohabit and 31% of atheists never actually get married.[36] Christian apologist Michael Caputo wrote: "Recently the Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life has published its mammoth study on Religion in America based on 35,000 interviews... According to the Pew Forum a whopping 37% of atheists never marry as opposed to 19% of the American population, 17% of Protestants and 17% of Catholics."[37]
Scientific research has demonstrated that active churchgoers are "35% less likely to divorce than those who have no religious preferences".[38]
According to the 2001 American Religious Identification Survey (ARIS) over 50% of all atheists and agnostics don’t get married.[39] See also: Atheism and marriage
The fertility rate is significantly lower in the atheist population (see: Atheism and fertility rates).
In relation to atheism and divorce, Vox Day wrote in his book The Irrational Atheist about atheist Daniel Dennett's arguments related to divorce:
“ | Dennett further claims that “brights” have better family values than born-again Christians based on “the lowest divorce rate in the United States” which depends on the flawed 1999 Barna study instead of the 2001 ARIS study he makes use of later in the book, a much larger study that reaches precisely the opposite conclusion. It is certainly a quixotic assertion, considering that these family value atheists are half as likely to get married, twice as likely to divorce, and have fewer children than any other group in the United States...
Barna calculated divorces as a percentage of the entire group, not as a percentage of marriages within that group. Since according to ARIS 2001 more than half of all atheists and agnostics don’t get married, this is an apple-orange comparison. If one correctly excludes the never-married from the calculation, then atheists are 58.7 percent more likely to get divorced than Pentecostals and Baptists, the two born-again Christian groups with the highest rate of divorce, and more than twice as likely to get divorced than Christians in general.[40] |
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For additional information, please see: Atheism, divorce, addiction, sexual satisfaction, social skills, dysfunctional beliefs and attitudes, and irrationality
The United States has a divorce rate of 3.6 per 1,000 as of 2005.[41] This results in a 41% failure rate for first marriages.[42]
In times past, the divorce rate was statistically much lower. Divorce affects more than the spouses; it also causes pain for any children from the marriage where the non-custodial parent is often seen less often or in some cases not at all. It is common for children to blame themselves for the divorce. Relationship difficulties for the children are especially common into later life if either of the parents is poisoning the relationship with the children for the other by making negative comments to the kids.
According to a Barna Group study from 1999 with a sample size of 3854, the percentage of atheists getting divorced was lower than that for Christians or Jews[43]
However, a follow up study in 2001 that looked into cohabitation trends found that Christians weren't cohabitating in the same proportions as non-Christians and that was affecting the results from the 1999 study. Checking for born again Christians specifically, it was found that 80% of born again Christians were or had been married compared to 69% for all other groups. When this was adjusted for, it gave born again Christians a slightly lower divorce rate than the general population. The difference is within the margin of error.[44]
In addition, The Barna Group has traditionally used nine doctrinal questions to categorize people as evangelicals, which distinguishes them from those who only fit the category of "born again" Christians. Using this criteria, just 8% of the adult population in 2006 were considered evangelical.[45]
Another Barna study in 2004 looking only at people who had married and their rate of divorce (sample size of 3,614) found that there was no difference in divorce rate between born again Christians and other Christians and that Christians on a whole had a slightly lower percentage of divorce when compared to atheists and agnostics. The difference is within the margin of error.[46]
A later study in 2008 revealed that while 78% of adult Americans have been married at least once, the percentage of born again Christians who married was 84%. Among atheists and agnostics that percentage was 65%, and 74% for those aligned with non-Christian faiths.
The study also showed that 33% of all adult Americans have experienced at least one divorce. The greatest disparity related to income, with the divorce rate among "downscale adults" being 39%, versus 22% for "upscale adults." As relates to ideological differences, the lowest likelihood of having been divorced after marriage was among evangelicals (26%), and Catholics (28%). The percentage among atheists was 30%, and 37% for people who consider themselves to be liberal on social and political issues. Among "born again" adults the divorce rate was identical to that of the national average of 33%. The study did not determine whether a divorce occurred prior to the person becoming become born again, though previous research indicated that applied to 20% of people in this class.[47]
Among those churches (e.g., Anabaptist and Conservative Holiness) that recognize no alleged Scriptural exceptions for divorce (and thus prohibit remarriage), the divorce rate is much lower. Among the Mennonites and Amish it is 0.3%.
The Barna study from 2004 also found that there was a large difference in divorce rates between baby boomers and the generations before, with the boomers having a much higher rate of marital failure. It is estimated that the boomers may pass a 50% rate of divorce. The generation after the boomers, the baby busters, appears to be heading to a similar rate of marital failure as the boomers based on early data.[48]
In the US, divorce rates vary substantially among the states. According to a Wall Street Journal article,[49] the states with the lowest rate of divorce in 2009 were Massachusetts (1.8 divorces per 1,000 people), the District of Columbia (2.1), Pennsylvania (2.3), Iowa (2.5), and New York (2.5). Those states with the highest divorce rates were Idaho (5.0), West Virginia (5.0), Wyoming (5.2), Arkansas (5.6), and Nevada (6.6).
In order to help solve the social problems created by inordinately high divorce rates, some states have begun passing laws enabling covenant marriages. A covenant marriage in some cases is harder to obtain than a default lawful marriage license and also is more difficult to break (the common exceptions being abuse, abandonment or adultery).[50]
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